- By Ivan Rados

Many people seek help for their emotional problems by visiting psychologists or taking medication, but have much invested in feeling depressed, having negative beliefs, and being paralyzed and inert. They often say: “I can’t get better. I don’t choose to be unhappy and negative, nobody would.”. That is not true. We all choose and create not only our wellbeing, but our diseases too. If we choose disease, misery and pain, the choice is made by the Unconscious. Mind means unconsciousness. If you feel stuck, injured beyond repair, first ask yourself: “What part or parts of me do not want to get better? Is there a secondary gain from my disease, pain and misery? Some people need their dis-ease for a variety of reasons: some are in love with very special, but unrecognized, incurable dis-eases; some have such a low self-esteem that anyone can give them any dis-ease they wish; some seek help and sabotage every treatment just to prove that they are incurable and therefore in some way special, still others ‘seek’ to revenge on someone; some are encouraged to get ill to avoid blame, responsibilities or for financial reward such as disability insurance; some are so addicted to trying many different approaches to healing that it becomes their way of life. It’s clear that many of us are in a close and significant relationship with disease. Ask yourself, “Am I in love with my unhappiness, shame, hate, guilt, or self-doubt.  Am I in love with my dis-ease?”

Dis-ease is non existence, it is a false. Dis-ease exists in your reality because you are standing back towards it, and you believe in it. By facing disease with your awareness, you will see that belief in disease is not serving you, it is against you, it is non-existential; you realize the ridiculousness of keeping that belief in your reality and the illness, disease will disappear. The mind has deceived you, bringing the impressions that there is the disease, it appears on the surface, it appears real, but if you bring consciousness into disease, you will find nothing, not a real dis-ease, just a trick, illusion, a mirage. The mind is a mirage. Bring your consciousness into dis-ease and it will disappear. Bring consciousness in your life and you will change relationship to relation.

Relationship means you are independent and separated and from that state you are in relation-ship with another independent and separated person or a thing. Relationship is an obstacle for free movement of the Infinite Energy of Oneness.

Relating is sharing and expanding the Infinite Energy of Oneness. Relation can be only with balanced, harmonious One Self. Through balance we re-discover Love. Through Love we form relation, and through relation we have an opportunity to awaken the Infinite Consciousness. The Infinite Consciousness is Compassion. Compassion means to have infinite passion within. It is through the enchantment of Love that compassion with consciousness starts flowing freely as delight. The ability to be compassionate towards others depends on your own ability to be in touch within your own yearnings and emotional pain. Accepted pain opens a deep understanding of our own existential needs to be One-Self, and opens a shared wisdom and understanding from the tender need of the others in the same way. Only by experiencing and going through our own emotional pain can compassion be shared. It is an act of the Whole anchored in the One-Self, and is able to respond to another’s One-Self. Compassion is a selfless act of the moment of now.

We often chose (unconsciously) to be unwell in order to prove something to someone from the past. That someone might not even be here any longer. Ask yourself: “What part of myself do I believe I would betray by getting better, happier, healthier, more fulfilled?” Or “who else do I think I would let down or leave behind or hurt in any other way by growing and thriving?” In my healing practice I see these hidden beliefs stifling people and holding them captive. When I suggest they ask themselves these questions, their initial response is often to reject it or get angry, stating “That’s nonsense.” However, whenever I work with someone who is “incurable,” these beliefs inevitably emerge early in the healing process. It has often been the case that I intuitively get the insight first and when I present it to the client, the response is always the same: “breaking down,” giving up on the defenses, and allowing healing to take place.

Once you bring the unconscious motivation to be unhappy and unhealthy into awareness, the next step is to begin cultivating an “inner observer.” To begin this work, stop whatever you are doing once an hour and ask yourself: “How am I doing? What am I feeling? What thoughts have been going through my mind lately? What sensations am I having in my body”? Keep increasing the awareness of your own internal process. This will connect you to One Self and consequently to the source, the ONE. And there is nothing but a blissfull, healthy flow of creative energy that you will find there. You will be in your One Self.

What are the expressions of One Self? 

Being comfortable with yourself and confident in your own abilities; the encompassing harmony between your heart and consciousness; self-evaluations associated with inner harmony and outer expression; high self-esteem, unconditional love; self-acceptance and self-compassion, deep presence of stillness, tranquility, peace and calmness, consciousness relaxed in the present moment right NOW, all these are the expressions of One Self.

Hypothalamus

The prime regulator of our emotions, feelings and moods, as well as hunger, appetite and all the concept of pleasure, comfort and creative activities is the hypothalamus. The hypothalamus, located at the base of the brain works closely with the pituitary gland of the endocrine system, and the pineal gland, the “Third Eye.” The endocrine glands connect the body to the vortexes of energy or chakra system, and this system links our physical reality with unseen energies of the Infinite Universe. In our brain, the pituitary gland, interacting with the hypothalamus produces certain chemicals called peptides, in response to emotional changes. These chemicals attach to receptors on the cell forming emotional sensations. People can be addicted to particular emotions (I call these people “emotional addicts”). They require a constant fix of emotions (or rather chemicals), and the sub-consciousness of these people will do everything possible to bring about situations in their life to trigger a chemical reaction in the hypothalamus for an emotional fix. It could be emotions of hate, jealousy, anger, depression or being in love (in its human, attachment sense, not Love as the state of consciousness).

The Hypothalamus Visualization

The hypothalamus relays information and instructions by the use of hypothalamus neurotransmitters to all parts of our body. It is closely involved in the integration of sensations from all our five senses and all physiological stimulation creating a package of experience.

If you feel pain or discomfort to touch in a particular area of your body and there is no rational explanation for it, put your hand on that area, gently massaging it. These points of discomfort are unprocessed emotions stored as toxic energies in the body. When these emotions are released through massage and visualization they are very often expressed as anger or sadness through tears or even laughter.

Visualize the following: 

From the hypothalamus the neurotransmitters roots are going down the body and finishing in the area of discomfort or pain. See the white energy accumulating in the Hypothalamus and going through the roots to that area and releasing the unhealthy energy/unprocessed emotions. Allow yourself to experience whatsoever is manifesting as the discomfort or physical pain. Don’t hold back.

Emotional Stress Release

When you are emotionally disturbed or stressed, the energy goes to the back of your brain, where the past is stored. This is the most primitive part of our brain, our survival mechanism. It’s designed to prepare you for danger, to flee, fight or freeze. When you are experiencing a disturbance, your brain thinks there is a danger and it automatically sends all the energy to that part of the brain, to switch it on.

If you place a hand on the forehead, the energy moves to the front of the brain. This is where thinking is located. Within a few minutes you will be less emotional about the particular issue, and less affected by it. Make sure you are touching the two bony ridges on the front part of your head.

Try this exercise:

When you interact with nature and its beauty, your feeling will come first, followed by the uninvited mind. The mind will always strive to mediate the experience with words such as, “This is beautiful!” We are so habituated to the words that there is no single break between feeling and the mind. The mind almost always jumps before anything else and spoils the game. Whatever you are looking at in nature, trees, scenery, flowers, try not to verbalize it, feel the beauty of it, but do not use the word “beautiful”. Allow One Self to be totally absorbed into the beauty without allowing the mind to intervene. If you can disassociate mind from feelings, then it is not difficult to disassociate feeling from existence. Your experience is all you have at that moment. Don’t allow your feelings to penetrate your experience. You just look. You will be able to see beauty without feelings; you will be able to enter existence without thoughts, words, or feelings.  You will be existence.